Whenever I meet another girl, for some odd reason, the conversation always drifts towards relationships and dating. And every single time the subject of relationships is brought up, this is almost exactly how it goes every single time:
Her: So, do you have a boyfriend?
Her: Really? Because I know this really nice guy… [goes into how nice this guy is and how I’d really like him and whatnot]
Me: No, thank you.
Me: I said, “No, thank you.” I’m not looking for a relationship right now.
Her: Why not?
- Freedom! You don’t have to make time for your significant other. It’s your time, and you can do whatever the hell you want with it. Go party, have a drink at the bar, stay home and have a Gossip Girl marathon, watch 4 football games at the same time, whatever! It doesn’t matter. Do whatever you want. Your boyfriend (or girlfriend) can’t tell you otherwise. You can make decisions without consulting anyone, and you can change your plans last minute much more easily.
- No drama. You don’t have to worry about your boyfriend getting jealous because you’re having lunch with your best guy friend, and you don’t have to worry that your girlfriend will be mad at you for blowing her off to hang with the bros. You don’t have to worry about stupid fights, tears, or heartbreaks.
- You have so much more time to spend with yourself, with your friends, and with your family. A lot of people realize a lot of things about themselves when they’re single: who they are, what they want in life, and what they’re looking for. You could do the same.
- You can meet so many new people. Make friends with people of the opposite gender. Flirt a little. You’re a great person. Why not find other great people to spend your time with, instead of being tied down to your partner all night?
- Sit around at home in sweats and no makeup with your hair in a messy bun all you want. Nobody’s judging. Skip a shower for a day? Fine. Forget to shave for a couple weeks? Great. Nobody cares.
- You can focus on lots of other things, like school or your career. Since you have more time for it, you’re bound to achieve more than you ever had before.
- You get the whole bed, the bathroom, everything to yourself. No more waiting half an hour for your girlfriend to finish doing her makeup and hair. No more fighting over the covers. It’s all yours.
- It’s so much more exciting. With a specific partner, sure, it’s comforting because they’ll always be there. But it gets boring. When you’re single, you wonder. “Does he like me?” “Will she text me back?” It’s a lot of fun when you don’t know what’s going to happen next.
- You won’t miss super awesome parties or group outings because you’re stuck hanging out with your boyfriend. You can have tons of fun with your friends instead of sitting at home watching him play videogames.
I really don’t understand why everyone feels the need to pair me up with someone else. Society seems to believe that being relationship-less is such a horrible, lonely experience, but “single” is not synonymous with “lonely.” Am I wrong to believe otherwise? Do I simply fail to realize how delicate and unstable my heart is, and that what I truly need is a man to make me whole? Am I supposed secretly cry myself to sleep, whine, and sigh about how lonely it gets? Absolutely not. Being single might have a few downsides, but when you consider the positives, it’s pretty awesome. There really is such thing as single and happy, no matter what anyone tells you. So go ahead. Make some new friends. Try some new things. Enjoy life. You’ll find your special someone someday.